Distant Lover: Novel Soundtrack Song 5

Maintaining a relationship can become a chore when you add in the stress of a move. If one of the parties involved is forced or chooses to move miles away. How do you keep the love alive? In my debut novel, this scenario plays out on the pages. The blog discussion below digs deeper into that subject. But right here; Marvin does all the talking. Marvin Gaye, Distant Lover. Song 5 on The Last Ms. Understanding Soundtrack.

Long Distance Romance

Long distance dating can be draining both emotionally and financially. Time spent talking to a partner who is hundreds of miles away requires tons of patience. The fact that you are in a loving relationship but your partner is not there when you need them most can be depressing. Sometimes they seem so near yet so far.

On the flipside though, sometimes it is healthy for the relationship. A relationship that is facing or experiencing a rough stretch can find its cure in distance. Long distance relationships make people to really appreciate the fact that they cannot do without each other. Partners can really focus and see how much value their spouses mean to their lives. The partners get ample time to meditate and evaluate themselves on a personal level and what they want out of the relationship. Distance actually can bring a conflicting couple closer. It also can prove disastrous.

For most people the saying is true, seeing is believing and once out of sight you are also not in the mind. The soft spot that you had for that person adopts some sort of indifference. A coldness can set in. A couple that is always together has a lot of fire going between them unlike partners with a whole ocean standing between them. Unless such a couple is totally committed, the rigors of long distance relationship can eat away at their once sound foundation.

Have you ever been involved in a long distance relationship? How did things turn out?

A Voice from the Past: Novel Soundtrack Song 4

It never fails. Everytime you begin a new relationship, people from your past begin to seemingly drop from the sky and want to let you know how much you meant to them. It becomes a choice whether to listen to their sweet words, or focus on the new road ahead. It can be difficult, especially if they sound anything like Sade.

Is it a crime....Song number 4 in our soundtrack. She's timeless, enjoy.

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Drifting into Love: Novel Soundtrack Song 3

It happens to all of us. That moment you feel yourself falling in love. It is truly an unforgettable experience. The lyrics of this song describe what goes on inside as we begin to allow that special person to have a piece of our heart. In my novel, The Last Ms. Understanding you can experience this by reading along with each chapter. I hope you will enjoy this seasoned performer as much as I do. Song 3: Michael Franks w/ Veronica Nunn - When I give my love to you. (Don't forget, soon you will have the chance to win this compilation CD and/or DVD) Keep checking back in each week for another sensational musical performance..

Why can't baseball players get any love?

I’m sure you’ve heard of Kobe Bryant and LeBron James. But have you ever heard of Curtis Granderson or Ryan Howard? Probably not. These young stars are doing their thing on the baseball diamond. That’s right, I said baseball.

You know …wooden bat, little white ball, homeruns. For a while now I’ve wondered why baseball players don’t seem to be so popular. Let me ask you; Do you even watch baseball?

If not, why not?

In my debut novel, The Last Ms. Understanding, the lead male character is a former baseball star.

Myself, I grew up watching the game and I still do. But, when Michael Jordan stepped onto the scene in the mid 1980’s and became a global icon it seemed like every kid laced up his sneakers and threw down their baseball gloves.

Why do you think baseball has lost its popularity? What will it take for baseball players to get some love?

Oh, by the way…In 2009 Ryan Howard, a baseball player on the Philadelphia Phillies will make $15,000,000 compared to LeBron James $14,400,000. Go on, admit it. Baseball’s starting to look better already….

(Detroit Tiger, Curtis Granderson, shown above)

The C word...Commitment

Every man and woman's commitment expectations are different, and that's perfectly fine. A committed relationship is not something that just happens because you've been with the same person for a certain period of time, so things "naturally" progress into a committed relationship. We all know that's not what happens.

What happens alot is that one partner finds him or herself feeling committed but doesn't sense the same level of commitment from the other person.

Getting someone who doesn't seem ready to commit or resists commitment to commit is probably one of the most difficult things to do. Just as you can't insist that someone love you or love you back, you can't insist that someone commits to you.

What do you do if you are ready for a commitment and the other person doesn't seem quite there yet?

Do you just wait for him or her to commit to you -- and to the relationship?

It's important to remember that while resistance to commitment can sometimes seem like your world has come to a standstill, resistance to commitment can also be healthy. It can act like brakes slowing it down and allowing you to see things more clearly (is this person right for you) and also manage the process at the pace that is comfortable to you emotionally and financially.

With that said, it's not a very good idea not to wait too long before bringing up commitment.

Things might just get too comfortable to change...